Okay...so I'm in a mood today. :-) And I think this post is going to be a little more upbeat than my former ones. Don't know what that says but whatever, here goes.
Honesty to me is very important, and I definitely would say it is a huge part of lasting relationships. "Best friends" only last so long because of how honest the two can be between each other. I think this is a point of a relationship that has been much abandoned in recent years. I mean think about it, in the movies, even in something that is supposed to be family friendly and in a "religious setting." In Evan Almighty even the man guy lies to his wife point blank about buying properties that he didn't. Although, people may think that that is necessary, I don't think so. If he had been honest right at that point with his wife, yes, things might have gone downhill, but it would have had the chance of going right even right there. Why do people not think that honesty is so crucial?
Another thing that has really killed honesty is etiquette. We need to be careful in how we say things. This is very true. But that doesn't mean not saying things. In my current relationship, my girlfriend and I have been very honest with each other, to the point of it hurting. I have not regretted one thing that I've told her, because she knows the real me. I've done my best to say things in the right way, which has not always come out the right way, but I've not kept things from her where she will have to wonder what I'm really thinking. Believe me, I have the tendency to shut things up inside and not let anyone in at all, and she'll testify to that. :-)
On the other hand, I'm not honest with most anyone else. My girlfriend has been able to see me in ways pretty much all of my other acquaintances have not seen me. Why do I do that? Maybe I fear rejection of who I really am. If I put on a fake face and people reject that, what do I care? But if I truly expose myself to others' critique than I would have the possibility for rejection, and perhaps even scarring. I don't know...it's just possible.
What's my point? hmmm...yeah point. Honesty is crucial for lasting relationships. It just is. Because those relationships need to be founded on trust. I didn't start off wanting to make this another blog about relationships. But I guess that's pretty much a lot of what is on my mind.
I would encourage others to not stay inside their-selves so much. I do that enough to know that looking at the world from inside oneself is pretty bleak. It's not a pro-active thing, it's a stifling thing, and it's more of a pity-party thing. Keep me safe type of deal. And if you would like to compare this to one particular thing. Think about it in the way of a turtle. He doesn't make any progress until he actually sticks his neck out.
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