Responsibility of a Man

Originally I had only intentions of writing about the woman's side of this deal, but over the past two weeks I've come to the conclusion that I should write about the other half. Not only for those who view this blog, but also for myself, as I have found myself slipping from my responsibility.

The responsibility of a man is to lead.

I know that hurts to hear that, but it is his sole responsibility, as laid down by God. He is to lead the family. He is to have the role of leadership in society. I can be called sexist and biased, that's fine, God said if you're for what I say you'll be prosecuted, I'm okay with that. God meant for man to lead.

Back in Genesis, when Satan told Eve to take the bite of the fruit (it's not an apple...we don't know what it is), why did he go to Eve first? Wouldn't it be so much easier to get Adam first? Eve would've just done what he said then. Why did he go get Eve first? For one, he knew how God had chemically created Adam different from Eve and knew that Eve could use her ways to make Adam just go with it. But more importantly, it was because he wanted to begin a trend that would last throughout man's existence.

As men, we are not to let the role of leader in the home fall to the wayside for the wife to pick up. We shouldn't be at the point where we are giving up the role at all! Why do we get there? Why are we letting this be a problem in our society? Do we not believe we can lead? Are we afraid? Do we think we will lose what we love? Is that why we go with the woman again and again just like in the garden? Thinking that if we just go with her whatever happens will be alright because we're together. But did you ever stop and think what would have happened if Adam had not bitten into that apple?

Human nature pulls on us throughout our lives to return to the decisions made on that day in Eden. Whether we directly understand this or not we still act it all out day by day. Our nature as men is to let the problems we face fall to the wayside and let someone else take it upon themselves to do good.

In relationships, in marriage, in life, in family...we need to be men and lead.

Where I've been struggling recently in relationships is the how to lead. When a man takes his position as the leader and makes it look as if he is actually a confident sort of person, I might make a venture and say that's attractive. It is also our responsibility not to lead on girls in general, but to save ourselves for one, and one only. We should lead in purity, which will be hard, one because of our society, and two because our nature is to lead selfishly. In Eden, Adam fell because he did not want to be alone without his Eve.

Do you ever notice in relationships how it is so hard to do the actual break-up? I'm pretty sure you do, kind of a stupid question, but just notice it again now. Why? Why is it so hard to give up anyone, even when you understand fully that this person is a complete jerk? Why do you want to sacrifice to make it right? Because just like Adam, we think we will be alone forever. Not realizing that just on the other side of this is God, and His plan. It is our responsibility to fight against these human traits. If not for the one we love but as examples in this society that is so without any kind of good example.

Even at the price of being nerdy, even at the price of falling out with people you like...at the price of everything, be what God made you to be. Lead, be men. Real men. Not part man part woman. Be a man.

The responsibility of man is to lead His family according to the word of God.

One final note...ladies, when you get your man, do help him out, but don't take his job. He needs your support so badly. But he doesn't need you to be the man for him. These are large things to break in our culture. But God thought just One man was enough to do it for the entire world from beginning to end. We are nowhere near as good as that One, but He has called us to follow Him anyway. "Take up your cross and follow me..." Believe it or not, thems fightin' words.